Yesterday at church the question was raised as to what makes you feel discouraged? The most unanimous answer seemed to be a huge feeling of discouragement when we compare ourselves to each other. One woman pointed out that we live in a world where only the highlights of our lives are publicized over blogs, Pinterest, Facebook and Twitter making it seem as if everyone else lives these rock star lives. How do you NOT compare the reality of your own life to fantasy lives you see in the social media?
I really love this discussion because I too have fallen in to the trap of feeling like I just can’t measure up. Comparison is a really dangerous game to play. It’s one of the fastest road to depression and disappointment. A while back, I got to a point of feeling envious and jealous when I used to look at other people’s projects on the internet. My intention of surfing blogs and Pinterest was to gain inspiration but instead I had this icky feeling that I didn’t like. I was playing the comparison game and I soon realized that no matter what I did I would NEVER measure up and I needed to let that feeling go or it would eat me alive. Everyone’s paths and priorities are different and I need to focus on what I want to do, what I need to do and what I am capable of doing given my own circumstances.
As a blogger, I hope I haven’t contributed to the false fantasy of living some perfect life. Oh, no…far from it. There are some days where I don’t get a shower because I’m running left, right up and down caring for four men, a job and a house. No one wants to share their weeknesses, only the highlights. Once in a while I catch myself dreaming about how it will be when all my men are in school and I can tinker all day on projects…my one day will come but for now I’m a full time momma, changing diapers, wiping noses and focusing on enjoying the journey. I’m learning how quickly each stage passes and how much I already miss those seasons that have already passed.
In case you don’t believe me…just take a look at my master bedroom that I’ve been trying to work on decorating ever since we moved in…1 year ago.
My main excuse is time. My secondary excuses…we’re also trying to work on renovating our basement. As a result, the upstairs bedrooms have become the storage places for everything that was once in the basement.
Renovating the basement is moving much slower than anticipated (just as any project does) so I’ve decided it’s time to tackle my bedroom.
So just in case you were feeling like playing the comparison game…you came to the right place today!
Thanks to Jenn Culley for taking these before pictures for me.